Relationship Advice: How To Be A Healthy Lover

Relationship Advice by Naturopathic Doctor Justin Gallant

With Valentine’s Day around the corner I figured I’d drop some knowledge on you guys with some of the things I work with to improve relationships with my patients. Here are some tips to improve the health of your relationship. ​

Listen to your partner

This one is especially for the men… Listen to your partner. I mean actively listen. If your partner has a hectic day all they want to do is vent about it. Having a bad day sucks but it sucks even more when no one cares. It’s actually pretty easy once you accept that you don’t have to fix anything. You just have to pay attention for 5-10 minutes and understand how crappy our partner is feeling, and then show that you care. Don’t try to help them fix it and don’t trump their story with yours.  If you don’t do this your partner will bottle everything up and eventually it’ll come out as a physical symptom like high blood pressure, high cholesterol or, headaches or a big juicy zit, or they’ll find someone who will listen.
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Real life situation: Susie comes home after a long hard day of putting up with her passive aggressive coworkers and her boss gave her crap for not getting everything done. She’s been bottling her emotions up all day at work and wants to spill the beans when she gets home. She pours out everything that went on today without taking a breath.
What are the proper responses?

1. Tell her you worked overtime today and Trevor got fired
2. Give her a big hug and say, “I’m sorry you had to go through that.”
3. Listen actively and show some concern
4. Tell her she should find a new job. 

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